Hello Francine 🤗 I just thank God that I was able to survive in chaos and if it comes again, I can survive in it again and I have the reassurance of that. I think the main thing is not to be in a chaotic environment 24 hours a day seven days a week! Thank you for commenting and welcome 🤗💕🙏
Your journey through chaos wasn’t just survival—it was preparation. Every split-second decision, every high-stakes moment, every time you thrived under pressure, you were unknowingly gathering the tools to help others do the same. The transition from constant crisis to calm reshaped you into someone who understands both the pull of chaos and the power of rewiring the mind.
Now, you’re not just helping others navigate external emergencies, you’re guiding them through the internal ones. That deep understanding, the ability to shift perception, and the wisdom gained through experience—that’s what makes your work so impactful today Kathleen. At the right, time space and sequence ❤️❤️
Karen, I almost don't even know how to reply. Your perception and how you stated it was beautiful absolutely beautiful and it's true. I don't even know how to thank you but thank you 🥰
"Live in the moment" they say. which goes along with your comment one moment at a time and really that's all we have the thing about looking at the past which I do believe we should do from time to time to see how far we've come but only for a short time, and then looking ahead, can sometimes cause anxiety and fear of the unknown but all we have is the moment. So we should live in each one of those as they come because we really don't know what's coming next. We can plan things and I'm not saying we shouldn't but one thing I've learned from living in the family that I was born into and working the career I've had is that one needs to be flexible. And the good news is that a lot of times things turn out a lot better than we had thought or even planned.
While I was not in a high stress work environment (well, not medically), I relate to my brain being used to chaos and perceiving so much as danger. I
I was always on high alert. I’ve worked hard at self talk (“very little in life is an emergency, Rosemary,” “you’ve survived every day of your life so far,” & “Shh. You’re safe in this moment”).
My own calming self talk, along with sobriety, and a lot of nervous system calming and regulating has helped rewire those frazzled neural pathways.
same here the drugs and alcohol didn't help but I was born into a chaotic environment so that's all I knew so of course I choose a career that's highly intense and then add travel nursing on top of it and that was after I got clean and sober but still, the issues were still there in the way I reacted to things. So happy for you and proud of you 🤗💕🙏
I completely agree. This community is unlike anything I have ever experienced with other social media platforms. I feels like I finally found my people and it’s such a welcoming wholesome community!
Anum, life has a way of working out that way, doesn't it? Especially when we're seeking something and when we seek it, I do believe we will find it and it will come to us in one way or another through a person through nature whatever that means. So glad the timing is right for you 🤗💕🙏
and I'm so happy for the community. We have here in the ability to connect to people all over the world and support uplift and encouraging each other. It's phenomenal 🚀
Great post! I was just talking about this with a friend, I actually find myself more calm in really chaotic situations and it's more the day to day things that get me unglued. I find it hard to wind down and relax, but I am practicing it, and with nerouplasticity, hoping for changes.
I spent 6 months in NICU with my son when he was born 11 years ago. It took many years (and much therapy, Somatic Experiencing, other healing modalities, etc) to reset my nervous system. I still find myself easily triggered at times, especially if he's sick or I haven't slept much.
I can only imagine what 25 years being in that environment and on call would do to your system. I commend you and thank you and am so glad you were able to transition to a gentler easy of being. 🙏🏽❤️
Stacie, it's a process. I get triggers as well. I think it's something that's lifelong and I actually think I was born into it - into a family that was kind of chaotic so I chose a career that was that way because it just seemed to fit right?
If something triggers those memories or if he gets sick, just remember what you've come through and you have tools now that you didn't have then. So you're so much better prepared now than you were then and it's all gonna work out
My goodness 11 years old, that's fantastic! Time flies . I'll bet you're very proud of him and you should be very proud of yourself. I'm not a mother in that since. I've never had children and I can't even imagine what it would be like, but I commend you and applaud you for your strength and resilience. There's a special place for mothers 🥰
Thanks Kathleen. 🙏🏽 Yes, I'm definitely proud of him and in awe of his resilience. And gratitude, deep gratitude is with me at all times. This usually takes the forefront in stressful times, but occasionally the stress response speaks louder!
And yes, I can understand how it could be in your family line, to find comfortable and /or the familiar in chaos. I love your self awareness in it all. Xx
It's a pertinent point you've presented here Kathleen and as you said it does take to get used to that quieter mind. Thank you for shedding light on this in a concise and informative manner.
You know how I feel about nurses, Kathleen--angels on earth. But it's an unrealistic lifestyle, for sure, and this is great insight into shifting perceptions. My adult daughter blames me for overworking during her childhood and even now, so I will need to examine this further. 🩷
Sheri, you know my mom was a single mom after she divorced my dad at age 10 and she wasn't around a lot because she had to work multiple jobs to take care of us since my dad wasn't doing his part. Let's just say I was a rebellious teenager 🫣
But I did the same thing. I blamed her for a lot of things that happened during those years because if I had been supervised, I wouldn't gotten into a lot of things I would've gotten into but as I got older, I realized that she needed to do what she needed to do to put food on the table and to clothe us and pay the bills and now I have a deep respect for her. The choices I made they were teenager choices, you know, and maybe I would've made some of those choices even if she was at home but some of them I would not have been able to do with her at home but don't take it personally you did the best you good that's all a mother or a parent can do. As she grows up and matures, and possibly even has children of her own her perception will probably change. And if not, it's really not on you. I think the best way to think of it as a provider whether a mother or father is you did everything you could to provide for your family or your children or whatever the circumstance and you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. Let's hang that one out to dry 💨
I put out a challenge today called stuck in your head? Escape the mental trap with a five day perspective shift challenge. I did some research and it's really good and I've used it for things that I've had a lot of perceptions about and it really does work if you work it, you know how that goes. it's for my paid subscribers and I'm doing challenges just about every week now that are included, so you might want to think about it. I'm not really trying to sell you on it, but I have a great price this month and it ends in four days and there's a lot of benefits. Think about it go with your gut -that's the best thing to do.
I appreciate your vulnerability and I know we have many things in common. Most nurses do specially what we went through to get to where we were able to work and then all the emotional psychological and physical stress that came along with that. I'm here if you need anything. 🤗💕🙏
Heh heh, laughing at myself, not at your beautiful response! This is very complicated, but I don’t think I feel guilty. It’s her perception that is at issue. I do have other perception issues and will look into your challenge. Love what you’re doing. 🩷💖🤓
well join our circle. It's a wonderful circle of people and we're growing slowly and I also love to promote the people as you've probably seen in some of my notes so it's like we're a team. It's not my community. It's our community. That's the way I look at it. We're all on this healing journey together whether it has to do with psychological or physical and honestly it's $45 for the year and it never goes up in price so it's it's really a good deal and honestly, I'm not trying to sell you. i'm just trying to educate you on what I'm offering in case you know you haven't seen an email with that or you haven't seen the benefits that I offer and even with paid subscribers I can work closely with them. I mean it's just something that I love to do and it's my calling. It's always been my no matter how difficult the journey or the path that's what I'm called to do and that's why I'm here on earth.
I'm glad that you see that it's her perspective and you don't feel guilty about it. I must've misread it so my apologies there. I'm glad you got a giggle out of it though 😉
I really liked this article. I hit burnout in my healthcare career (nurse/C- Suite executive) and it took a LOT to get to a relatively calm place. Really tough to go from constant adrenaline surges to being able to tell my brain to chill out…there is no lion coming to eat me, the sky is not falling, things will probably work out. It isn’t always easy, and I do relapse from time to time, but I’m definitely in a much better than I was!
Me too, and I know we understand that a lot because we have some things in common, especially with our healthcare careers. As I was reading your descriptions with the examples, i'm laughing because I recognize every single one of them. And yes, we do relapse back into those things. But our super power is in an emergency situation. We are very fast thinking we can delegate when people are frozen or in fighter flight or not knowing what to do and we can get the situation under control. So is it still our superpower when we need it 🦸♀️
yes, all we were doing was putting out fires and we had to figure out which fire was the worst one and put that one out first and then go to the next the next and the next. It's a great skill to have in life. But on the flipside, it's knowing that when we're not in those situations that we don't need to be on that high alert and adrenaline pumping state of mind. It can definitely be balanced 💯
amen! it's in our blood and I think it's what makes us good nurses. You can teach anybody skills, but you can't teach compassion and care. They either have it or they don't.
Agreed! But our training was important in helping us build our ability to triage…so that’s another important part of our skill set in addition to compassion and care!
Loved it! I have had a longstanding anxiety disorder and my work in scientific research is laced with stress. It doesn’t help that my husband a scientist too. Collectively we have a lot going on at any moment. The one thing I have used in addition to daily reflection and journaling is to intentionally be without phone for some time. This quiet time really helps me.
Being without the phone actually helps, but general anxiety disorder, which I can say I can relate because I've been diagnosed with it, it can be addressed holistically (as well as medically if it needs to be and nothing else works). And healing can occur absolutely. Mine was diagnosed when I lost my brother in 2017 unexpectedly. But I actually had anxiety before that at age 30 and was due to a hormone imbalance so I think that there are other factors that play into it. I'm not saying it's not real because it certainly is. I do know that I still have an underlying anxiety, which I really call an apprehensiveness and probably fear of the unknown more than anything but nothing like I had because of my holistic practices and being with myself and asking, where is this really coming from and what is the root cause of it?
absolutely beautiful job Kathleen. I understand the chaos and trying to go to the calm. It’s very difficult for me to sit still also and just breathe.💕✌️
I was working with a business coach a few years back who was a former psychologist, we were working through my burnout and trying to redefine what was important in my work. Sharing a few encounters with colleagues and how I handled them she said "chaos is your resting state." She was right, it was where I was most comfortable, and I prided myself on being good at handling high-stress situations. But you know what, once I started changing where I put my energy my entire nervous system readjusted, and now I have a very low tolerance for unnecessary drama. You are right, we can change. The first step is recognizing the patterns.
We can definitely change if we want to. Another thing I've noticed not just with me but with a lot of other people as they get older, they can't take the same amount that they used to.
I agree that getting older has made chaos harder for me to endure, but I see examples of people in my life who continue to live in the swirl of madness with no end in sight, and somehow they keep doing it. Now that I'm able to recognize that particular version of insanity I really don't want any part of it.
Page, we're definitely in agreement on that 😉 well, the people that keep doing it, it will take a toll. It may not be today or tomorrow, but it always catches up with us. our body is our home and it's got to be maintained and I believe in Prevention 100% and then address or treat when something comes up and something will always come up, but the thing is if we take care of ourselves the amount of time that we're down and the recovery time is so much shorter.
I understand what you are writing, the feeling something will happen, needs to happen and even slight abnormal feelings in the body sends me to alert mode. I relate to you. I was a RN, did not work for long but got into another high functioning work - mission work and became a mother. In the last four years I was again in a high alert situation with my husband's cancer treatment, mini stroke, shingles and taking care of his paralyzed mother. Now, I am learning to live normally, not in fight and flight mode.
Another registered nurse 🎉🎉🎉 whether doing it for a short time or a long time it doesn't matter we all went through the same training and it's definitely not for the faint of heart.
i'm sure Mission's work was very rewarding and you saw a lot.
similar situation but not with a husband just a mother and a stepfather and it's a lot but it's an honor to do it and I'm doing it alone with no help. Thank you for doing what you've done. I'm sure it does not go unnoticed at all. it is a shift going from high alert and emergency situations to not having to deal with that and it does require a shift in our perspective and all because it's like natural it's like second nature it's what made us good at what we did and maybe we were born that way and maybe we weren't but either way I'm so happy that things are becoming more normalized for you and just grateful to meet you here and thank you for everything that you've done and will be doing. Welcome to Substack 🤗💕🙏
If you ever drove a stick shift, you’ll get this. It’s like you were humming along in 5th gear and suddenly jammed it into first.
I love this, Kathleen! Those perception shifts are everything 🙌 Just because we can survive in chaos, doesn’t mean that we should!
Hello Francine 🤗 I just thank God that I was able to survive in chaos and if it comes again, I can survive in it again and I have the reassurance of that. I think the main thing is not to be in a chaotic environment 24 hours a day seven days a week! Thank you for commenting and welcome 🤗💕🙏
Absolutely!
Your journey through chaos wasn’t just survival—it was preparation. Every split-second decision, every high-stakes moment, every time you thrived under pressure, you were unknowingly gathering the tools to help others do the same. The transition from constant crisis to calm reshaped you into someone who understands both the pull of chaos and the power of rewiring the mind.
Now, you’re not just helping others navigate external emergencies, you’re guiding them through the internal ones. That deep understanding, the ability to shift perception, and the wisdom gained through experience—that’s what makes your work so impactful today Kathleen. At the right, time space and sequence ❤️❤️
Karen, I almost don't even know how to reply. Your perception and how you stated it was beautiful absolutely beautiful and it's true. I don't even know how to thank you but thank you 🥰
I just hear and see you Kathleen--your passion speaks volumes!
"One moment at a time" might be my new fav motto 🧡
"Live in the moment" they say. which goes along with your comment one moment at a time and really that's all we have the thing about looking at the past which I do believe we should do from time to time to see how far we've come but only for a short time, and then looking ahead, can sometimes cause anxiety and fear of the unknown but all we have is the moment. So we should live in each one of those as they come because we really don't know what's coming next. We can plan things and I'm not saying we shouldn't but one thing I've learned from living in the family that I was born into and working the career I've had is that one needs to be flexible. And the good news is that a lot of times things turn out a lot better than we had thought or even planned.
Love this. Such good stuff!
While I was not in a high stress work environment (well, not medically), I relate to my brain being used to chaos and perceiving so much as danger. I
I was always on high alert. I’ve worked hard at self talk (“very little in life is an emergency, Rosemary,” “you’ve survived every day of your life so far,” & “Shh. You’re safe in this moment”).
My own calming self talk, along with sobriety, and a lot of nervous system calming and regulating has helped rewire those frazzled neural pathways.
same here the drugs and alcohol didn't help but I was born into a chaotic environment so that's all I knew so of course I choose a career that's highly intense and then add travel nursing on top of it and that was after I got clean and sober but still, the issues were still there in the way I reacted to things. So happy for you and proud of you 🤗💕🙏
We are drawn to the dopamine. So hard to undo that. Go you on getting sober too! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It was my last chance so the alternative would've been death.
This came to me at the perfect time! Such great advice!
I completely agree. This community is unlike anything I have ever experienced with other social media platforms. I feels like I finally found my people and it’s such a welcoming wholesome community!
Anum, life has a way of working out that way, doesn't it? Especially when we're seeking something and when we seek it, I do believe we will find it and it will come to us in one way or another through a person through nature whatever that means. So glad the timing is right for you 🤗💕🙏
It really does! It’s amazing as soon as you mentally decide you want to make a shift somehow the universe pulls you in the right direction.
and I'm so happy for the community. We have here in the ability to connect to people all over the world and support uplift and encouraging each other. It's phenomenal 🚀
Great post! I was just talking about this with a friend, I actually find myself more calm in really chaotic situations and it's more the day to day things that get me unglued. I find it hard to wind down and relax, but I am practicing it, and with nerouplasticity, hoping for changes.
Neuroplasticy a word I love and don't see often 😉 it Works!
I work with people recovering after stroke in my day job, so neuroplasticity and me go way back!
understood I worked a neurology ICU and also post TBI, CVA, etc. thank you for everything that you do 🤗💕🙏
Such an important message..
I spent 6 months in NICU with my son when he was born 11 years ago. It took many years (and much therapy, Somatic Experiencing, other healing modalities, etc) to reset my nervous system. I still find myself easily triggered at times, especially if he's sick or I haven't slept much.
I can only imagine what 25 years being in that environment and on call would do to your system. I commend you and thank you and am so glad you were able to transition to a gentler easy of being. 🙏🏽❤️
Stacie, it's a process. I get triggers as well. I think it's something that's lifelong and I actually think I was born into it - into a family that was kind of chaotic so I chose a career that was that way because it just seemed to fit right?
If something triggers those memories or if he gets sick, just remember what you've come through and you have tools now that you didn't have then. So you're so much better prepared now than you were then and it's all gonna work out
My goodness 11 years old, that's fantastic! Time flies . I'll bet you're very proud of him and you should be very proud of yourself. I'm not a mother in that since. I've never had children and I can't even imagine what it would be like, but I commend you and applaud you for your strength and resilience. There's a special place for mothers 🥰
Thanks Kathleen. 🙏🏽 Yes, I'm definitely proud of him and in awe of his resilience. And gratitude, deep gratitude is with me at all times. This usually takes the forefront in stressful times, but occasionally the stress response speaks louder!
And yes, I can understand how it could be in your family line, to find comfortable and /or the familiar in chaos. I love your self awareness in it all. Xx
it's taken years of practice and application.
It's a pertinent point you've presented here Kathleen and as you said it does take to get used to that quieter mind. Thank you for shedding light on this in a concise and informative manner.
yes, something to be practiced.
You know how I feel about nurses, Kathleen--angels on earth. But it's an unrealistic lifestyle, for sure, and this is great insight into shifting perceptions. My adult daughter blames me for overworking during her childhood and even now, so I will need to examine this further. 🩷
Sheri, you know my mom was a single mom after she divorced my dad at age 10 and she wasn't around a lot because she had to work multiple jobs to take care of us since my dad wasn't doing his part. Let's just say I was a rebellious teenager 🫣
But I did the same thing. I blamed her for a lot of things that happened during those years because if I had been supervised, I wouldn't gotten into a lot of things I would've gotten into but as I got older, I realized that she needed to do what she needed to do to put food on the table and to clothe us and pay the bills and now I have a deep respect for her. The choices I made they were teenager choices, you know, and maybe I would've made some of those choices even if she was at home but some of them I would not have been able to do with her at home but don't take it personally you did the best you good that's all a mother or a parent can do. As she grows up and matures, and possibly even has children of her own her perception will probably change. And if not, it's really not on you. I think the best way to think of it as a provider whether a mother or father is you did everything you could to provide for your family or your children or whatever the circumstance and you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. Let's hang that one out to dry 💨
I put out a challenge today called stuck in your head? Escape the mental trap with a five day perspective shift challenge. I did some research and it's really good and I've used it for things that I've had a lot of perceptions about and it really does work if you work it, you know how that goes. it's for my paid subscribers and I'm doing challenges just about every week now that are included, so you might want to think about it. I'm not really trying to sell you on it, but I have a great price this month and it ends in four days and there's a lot of benefits. Think about it go with your gut -that's the best thing to do.
I appreciate your vulnerability and I know we have many things in common. Most nurses do specially what we went through to get to where we were able to work and then all the emotional psychological and physical stress that came along with that. I'm here if you need anything. 🤗💕🙏
Heh heh, laughing at myself, not at your beautiful response! This is very complicated, but I don’t think I feel guilty. It’s her perception that is at issue. I do have other perception issues and will look into your challenge. Love what you’re doing. 🩷💖🤓
well join our circle. It's a wonderful circle of people and we're growing slowly and I also love to promote the people as you've probably seen in some of my notes so it's like we're a team. It's not my community. It's our community. That's the way I look at it. We're all on this healing journey together whether it has to do with psychological or physical and honestly it's $45 for the year and it never goes up in price so it's it's really a good deal and honestly, I'm not trying to sell you. i'm just trying to educate you on what I'm offering in case you know you haven't seen an email with that or you haven't seen the benefits that I offer and even with paid subscribers I can work closely with them. I mean it's just something that I love to do and it's my calling. It's always been my no matter how difficult the journey or the path that's what I'm called to do and that's why I'm here on earth.
I'm glad that you see that it's her perspective and you don't feel guilty about it. I must've misread it so my apologies there. I'm glad you got a giggle out of it though 😉
I really liked this article. I hit burnout in my healthcare career (nurse/C- Suite executive) and it took a LOT to get to a relatively calm place. Really tough to go from constant adrenaline surges to being able to tell my brain to chill out…there is no lion coming to eat me, the sky is not falling, things will probably work out. It isn’t always easy, and I do relapse from time to time, but I’m definitely in a much better than I was!
Me too, and I know we understand that a lot because we have some things in common, especially with our healthcare careers. As I was reading your descriptions with the examples, i'm laughing because I recognize every single one of them. And yes, we do relapse back into those things. But our super power is in an emergency situation. We are very fast thinking we can delegate when people are frozen or in fighter flight or not knowing what to do and we can get the situation under control. So is it still our superpower when we need it 🦸♀️
Yes!!!!!!!!! Once a nurse, always a nurse! 🦸♀️
yes, all we were doing was putting out fires and we had to figure out which fire was the worst one and put that one out first and then go to the next the next and the next. It's a great skill to have in life. But on the flipside, it's knowing that when we're not in those situations that we don't need to be on that high alert and adrenaline pumping state of mind. It can definitely be balanced 💯
Agreed! And NEEDS to be balanced for our health and wellbeing! 💯
amen! it's in our blood and I think it's what makes us good nurses. You can teach anybody skills, but you can't teach compassion and care. They either have it or they don't.
Agreed! But our training was important in helping us build our ability to triage…so that’s another important part of our skill set in addition to compassion and care!
Loved it! I have had a longstanding anxiety disorder and my work in scientific research is laced with stress. It doesn’t help that my husband a scientist too. Collectively we have a lot going on at any moment. The one thing I have used in addition to daily reflection and journaling is to intentionally be without phone for some time. This quiet time really helps me.
Being without the phone actually helps, but general anxiety disorder, which I can say I can relate because I've been diagnosed with it, it can be addressed holistically (as well as medically if it needs to be and nothing else works). And healing can occur absolutely. Mine was diagnosed when I lost my brother in 2017 unexpectedly. But I actually had anxiety before that at age 30 and was due to a hormone imbalance so I think that there are other factors that play into it. I'm not saying it's not real because it certainly is. I do know that I still have an underlying anxiety, which I really call an apprehensiveness and probably fear of the unknown more than anything but nothing like I had because of my holistic practices and being with myself and asking, where is this really coming from and what is the root cause of it?
Love your article Kathleen 💕
It's so very true! Perspective changes everything. Your practical steps to change your perspective are super helpful 🙏
JR, you're always an inspiration for me. I really appreciate our friendship 🥰
Likewise Kathleen 🥰
absolutely beautiful job Kathleen. I understand the chaos and trying to go to the calm. It’s very difficult for me to sit still also and just breathe.💕✌️
Understood, Lisa. I can sit still, but I don't like sitting. I just don't. I'd rather stand or be moving around. But breathing is crucial.
Tomorrow I'm going to have a five day challenge. It will be in an article. Maybe you can join and it will help you 🤗
Obviously, we all have to apply it to our lives, but just take it one day at a time 🙏
I don’t have my paid subscriptions up yet does that matter
no, you can just join with my link.
It's 50% off forever- no price increase ever.And it ends in five days
I'll put the link here. I try not to do that but since you asked😉
https://lifewithmirrors.substack.com/55bc802e
I was working with a business coach a few years back who was a former psychologist, we were working through my burnout and trying to redefine what was important in my work. Sharing a few encounters with colleagues and how I handled them she said "chaos is your resting state." She was right, it was where I was most comfortable, and I prided myself on being good at handling high-stress situations. But you know what, once I started changing where I put my energy my entire nervous system readjusted, and now I have a very low tolerance for unnecessary drama. You are right, we can change. The first step is recognizing the patterns.
We can definitely change if we want to. Another thing I've noticed not just with me but with a lot of other people as they get older, they can't take the same amount that they used to.
I agree that getting older has made chaos harder for me to endure, but I see examples of people in my life who continue to live in the swirl of madness with no end in sight, and somehow they keep doing it. Now that I'm able to recognize that particular version of insanity I really don't want any part of it.
Page, we're definitely in agreement on that 😉 well, the people that keep doing it, it will take a toll. It may not be today or tomorrow, but it always catches up with us. our body is our home and it's got to be maintained and I believe in Prevention 100% and then address or treat when something comes up and something will always come up, but the thing is if we take care of ourselves the amount of time that we're down and the recovery time is so much shorter.
I understand what you are writing, the feeling something will happen, needs to happen and even slight abnormal feelings in the body sends me to alert mode. I relate to you. I was a RN, did not work for long but got into another high functioning work - mission work and became a mother. In the last four years I was again in a high alert situation with my husband's cancer treatment, mini stroke, shingles and taking care of his paralyzed mother. Now, I am learning to live normally, not in fight and flight mode.
Another registered nurse 🎉🎉🎉 whether doing it for a short time or a long time it doesn't matter we all went through the same training and it's definitely not for the faint of heart.
i'm sure Mission's work was very rewarding and you saw a lot.
similar situation but not with a husband just a mother and a stepfather and it's a lot but it's an honor to do it and I'm doing it alone with no help. Thank you for doing what you've done. I'm sure it does not go unnoticed at all. it is a shift going from high alert and emergency situations to not having to deal with that and it does require a shift in our perspective and all because it's like natural it's like second nature it's what made us good at what we did and maybe we were born that way and maybe we weren't but either way I'm so happy that things are becoming more normalized for you and just grateful to meet you here and thank you for everything that you've done and will be doing. Welcome to Substack 🤗💕🙏