The Illness Grief Created and the Mindset Shift That Helped Me Heal
Broken by Loss, Rebuilt by Thought
When the Body Remembers What the Mind Tries to Forgetā¦
It was March 24, 2017ā¦
I was just eating breakfast and heard a loud uncontrolled banging at the back door.
My mom was crying- no, screaming, in a voice Iāll never forgetā¦ she told me my brother had passed.
I couldnāt even swallow. Food was in my mouth and I had to spit it out. My body started shutting down. I felt deep mental anguish, hard to put into words.
But hereās the eerie partā¦
That morning, at 4 a.m., I woke up with my whole body soaked in sweat. Heart racing. Chest tight and pain I had never felt. Dread like something awful had just happened. I laid there, praying and thinking what could this be and who was it?
Turns outā¦ that was the exact time he passed. My body knew before my brain did.
The days that followed? A nightmare.
I was in pain. Mentally and physically. Couldnāt eat. It was way beyond irritable bowel type symptoms and doubled over in pain . Diarrhea and bloody stools. Heart palpitations and chest pain. Mental anguish. I lost 30 pounds in a month.
Finally forced to go to the ER and scared I had something serious. But every test came back ānormal.ā Except I wasnāt.
The doctor looked at me and said, āYouāve had a nervous breakdown. This is trauma.ā He offered meds. Hospitalization.
I said no.
Iām a holistic registered nurse. I knew the body could heal. But I also knew this wasnāt gonna be quick... Or easy.
I went home and was on Mental health disability for six months.
And I fought my way back - rebuilding my gut, my mind, and my life. Naturally. Step by step.
Now hereās what I need you to hear and really listen up
Every year around this time, my body still remembers.
But this year? Itās stronger. Heavier. More intense.
I donāt know if itās the energy of the year, or just how grief works in layers.
But I do know thisā¦
How we think and what we focus on shapes what we feel.
Our mindset matters. More than anything!
Iāve lived it. Iāve studied it. Iāve seen it in clients and patients over and over again.
So I want to share 3 powerful things that help me shift when the grief comes in like a wave:
1. Ask Before You React
Every symptom has a voice.
When something shows up whether tightness, fear, gut pain etc., donāt push it away.
Sit with it and ask
What is this trying to tell me?
Where is this coming from?
Is this painā¦ or is this a memory?
This isnāt āwooāāitās somatic intelligence.
The body talks. Listen before you medicate it into silence.
2. Choose the Thought That Serves You
Thoughts are gonna come. The good, the bad, the awful. All of it.
But you get to choose which ones you feed.
I learned to treat thoughts like clouds floating by. Some I wave to. Others, I let go.
When a the thought shows up, I askā¦
Does this serve me in a positive way or is this trying to teach me something? Is this near an anniversary date of something that happened in the past? Does this help me feel safe? Or stuck?
Then I pick the thoughts that support healing. I listen to what my mind and my body are telling me, and I always get the answer.
I say to myself, I am safe. My body is healing. And then I let the feeling or the emotion flow through me.
3. Support Your Body Like Itās a Sacred Space
Because it is.
This body has carried you through hell and back.
It deserves supportānot punishment.
Feed it good, clean and healthy food.
Sleep. The REM type (Rapid Eye Movement)
Good, Clean Water.
Move the grief through your body. Massage. Acupuncture. Breathwork. Crying on the bathroom floor if you have to. It all counts.
When your mind is screamingā¦ your body can be the anchor.
Anything coming up for you right now?
If somethingās coming up for youā¦
If your body feels off and you canāt quite explain itā¦
Donāt ignore it!
Look at the date. The season. The memory your cells might be holding.
Then sit down with it and ask:
āWhat do you need me to know? What are you still holding for meā?
There is so much wisdom in your body.
So much strength. So much hope.
Youāre not broken. Youāre remembering. Youāre healing. Youāre human.
Before I goā¦
Everything Iāve shared here? I didnāt just study it, I lived it.
Iāve walked through trauma, grief, addiction and healed my body and mind naturally.
Now I help others do the same- one-on-one, with my full attention.
No groups. No fluff. Just you and me, getting to the root of it.
If youāre ready to shiftāmentally, physically, emotionallyāIām here.
Iām offering access for just $69 Annual Plan. 25 Spots Left!
Just real support from someone who gets it.
Youāre not alone. Letās do this together š
Transform To Wellness- Kathleen Thorne RN, LMT (RN3252112/ MA54880)
Thank you for this tender reminder. I was ugly crying and weeping one morning without knowing why. Later I got the news that my grandmother had passed away that morning. The body has so much wisdom.
I really appreciate your content. šš½
Thank you, Kathleen