Beautiful job, Kathleen. This is a guide to the topic I'm currently covering (broadly) for caregivers, and I will repost it shortly. I'm scattered today--surgery tomorrow before dawn, and my mind is a million places. However, I'm glad you wrote this article (and more on the topic to come?), and your content is spot on. It's a hugely important topic. ❤
This is a new concept for me, so thank you for the thoroughness and transparency. Very helpful and beautifully written on a challenging topic. I especially appreciated the insight around pre-grief not having to be about death.
It's a hard topic to speak about and it's not something someone would pick up and read, but we all go through it and it's not just about death. It's about a lot of things. but since I'm going through what I'm going through, I thought you know what I'm gonna write about it. It helps me and I pray to God. It helps other people as well because some people will not talk about it and they will withdrawal. I know because that's what I used to do. So glad you enjoyed it, my dear 😉🙏🥰
I disagree about not something someone would just pick up and read. Your words seem to have codes that light up when someone scans or glances at your note. There are so many fearful anxious people in the world that don’t know what they are experiencing is grief as well as other things and just two or three of the right words you use will light up in the page for those searching for meaning of how they feel. There is grief wound thru in my entire life experiences after terrible grief and loss of a year from hell, 2024, and fallout in our world, personal lives, family lives, spiritual lives. Your Note defined some of it and it brings me (at least) some comfort. Your words brought me comfort - and radical self acceptance. Keep writing, please. It is much needed, especially now!
Ki M, I appreciate your kind words, and I don't know your situation, but I definitely understand the changes in our world and our societies. It's sad, but I always tell people when I meet them that no matter what's happening that each of us is an individual can make the decision to be our best not just for ourselves, but for other others to support people. It's something that we're gonna have to do because I don't see it getting any easier. I've lived six decades and I can say and I don't say this to be negative but things don't get easier. People age, illnesses and diseases happen for whatever reason they happen and I think there's many reasons besides just Aging and I won't really get into that here but it's absolutely our mindset and how we perceive things. I know from long ago getting knocked down over and over again. It doesn't help the mindset. We just have to make a conscious decision and determination to either change it or at least put ourselves around people that are positive and encouraging and uplifting. We don't need all the negative crap that's for sure! I also know that if I get anxious or in fear mode, for example my mom has rectal cancer and there's nothing they can do. We did the radiation and it got worse and I can get in that mode, especially being a nurse of 29 years even though I'm very holistic and what I have to do to just keep from going down that dark black hole is to remind myself of all the things I'm grateful for and do my best to continue to create memories. She's my soulmate. It's not like she's just my mom. We have a lot of trauma in both our pasts and we're very connected.
but you have my support 100% I'm here for you if you ever want to reach out . Thank you for taking the time to stop and read and comment. It means a lot to me 🤗💕🙏
Pre-grief or anticipatory grief, whichever. I think the change that can happen Nancy is that we talk about it. We express our feelings and we get support and that makes a huge change not only and how we might process it, but how we deal with it having a support system is huge. At least that's what I've seen in my experience and I did work for Hospice for a few years and that's what I've seen.
Beautiful job, Kathleen. This is a guide to the topic I'm currently covering (broadly) for caregivers, and I will repost it shortly. I'm scattered today--surgery tomorrow before dawn, and my mind is a million places. However, I'm glad you wrote this article (and more on the topic to come?), and your content is spot on. It's a hugely important topic. ❤
I have it on my calendar about your surgery tomorrow. Everything's gonna work out perfectly and you're gonna have a speedy recovery 🙏
This is a new concept for me, so thank you for the thoroughness and transparency. Very helpful and beautifully written on a challenging topic. I especially appreciated the insight around pre-grief not having to be about death.
good morning Sheri 🌞
It's a hard topic to speak about and it's not something someone would pick up and read, but we all go through it and it's not just about death. It's about a lot of things. but since I'm going through what I'm going through, I thought you know what I'm gonna write about it. It helps me and I pray to God. It helps other people as well because some people will not talk about it and they will withdrawal. I know because that's what I used to do. So glad you enjoyed it, my dear 😉🙏🥰
I disagree about not something someone would just pick up and read. Your words seem to have codes that light up when someone scans or glances at your note. There are so many fearful anxious people in the world that don’t know what they are experiencing is grief as well as other things and just two or three of the right words you use will light up in the page for those searching for meaning of how they feel. There is grief wound thru in my entire life experiences after terrible grief and loss of a year from hell, 2024, and fallout in our world, personal lives, family lives, spiritual lives. Your Note defined some of it and it brings me (at least) some comfort. Your words brought me comfort - and radical self acceptance. Keep writing, please. It is much needed, especially now!
Ki M, I appreciate your kind words, and I don't know your situation, but I definitely understand the changes in our world and our societies. It's sad, but I always tell people when I meet them that no matter what's happening that each of us is an individual can make the decision to be our best not just for ourselves, but for other others to support people. It's something that we're gonna have to do because I don't see it getting any easier. I've lived six decades and I can say and I don't say this to be negative but things don't get easier. People age, illnesses and diseases happen for whatever reason they happen and I think there's many reasons besides just Aging and I won't really get into that here but it's absolutely our mindset and how we perceive things. I know from long ago getting knocked down over and over again. It doesn't help the mindset. We just have to make a conscious decision and determination to either change it or at least put ourselves around people that are positive and encouraging and uplifting. We don't need all the negative crap that's for sure! I also know that if I get anxious or in fear mode, for example my mom has rectal cancer and there's nothing they can do. We did the radiation and it got worse and I can get in that mode, especially being a nurse of 29 years even though I'm very holistic and what I have to do to just keep from going down that dark black hole is to remind myself of all the things I'm grateful for and do my best to continue to create memories. She's my soulmate. It's not like she's just my mom. We have a lot of trauma in both our pasts and we're very connected.
but you have my support 100% I'm here for you if you ever want to reach out . Thank you for taking the time to stop and read and comment. It means a lot to me 🤗💕🙏
A new name for anticipatory grief--which is real grief, it just happens to start before the loss.
It is knowing what is coming and starting the grief journey before the event--it's just a matter of time.
Call it pre-grief if you will, but it changes nothing.
Pre-grief or anticipatory grief, whichever. I think the change that can happen Nancy is that we talk about it. We express our feelings and we get support and that makes a huge change not only and how we might process it, but how we deal with it having a support system is huge. At least that's what I've seen in my experience and I did work for Hospice for a few years and that's what I've seen.
Have a great day 🌞