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Pea Williams's avatar

Love this! Thanks for sharing :)

I'm reading Sahil Bloom's new book 'The 5 types of Wealth' and he has the concept of goals and anti-goals. The anti-goals are these non negotiable things you mention - i.e. a parent who will not let their commitment to bedtime with their kids slip in pursuit of their career.

I liked that reframe, so thought I'd share.

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Kathleen Thorne RN, LMT's avatar

perfect analogy Lou 😉 welcome and thank you for taking the time to read the article 🙏

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Genevieve's avatar

Love this post! I too have a short list of non-negotiables: 1. Go Outside 2. Eat a vegetable 3. Movement at least once a day.

I found that I had to weave them intentionally into my every day, just as you described here. It's so critical that we teach ourselves how to look after ourselves.

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Kathleen Thorne RN, LMT's avatar

I like your list too . Simple and doable 💪

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Rhian Kivits 🦋's avatar

This is a great article. Today I missed one of my non-negotiables and I am feeling the deficit. I'll get back on track with it tomorrow morning.

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Kathleen Thorne RN, LMT's avatar

Rhian, you can start over anytime during the day. So if you missed it this morning, maybe you can do it now. I understand you may be in a time zone where it's already nighttime or something like that but if not do it f first chance you can 😉

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Rhian Kivits 🦋's avatar

Okay thank you, yes I’ll do it before bed. It’s just a little ten minute routine.

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Kathleen Thorne RN, LMT's avatar

fantastic 🥰

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Grace Grossmann's avatar

Paying attention brings so much more awareness and care in. Thanks for this!

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Sue Reid's avatar

Thank you Kathleen for this important reminder to notice what’s going on with yourself. The non-negotiables linked to self-care should never be let go. 💕

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Cosmic Earth Priestess's avatar

This helps me clarify my own priorities and non-negotiables. Thanks!

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Jane Duncan Rogers's avatar

Wise words here Kathleen. I realise reading them that it was only the existence of my non-negotiables (didn't think of them like this before reading this piece) that prevented me from being burnt out a couple of years ago. For me, they are early morning walks alone, and yoga, most days. Also an afternoon nap after lunch.

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Kathleen Thorne RN, LMT's avatar

Sounds perfect to me. Early morning walks or just being outside. I have 10 acres to walk on so I don't have to go far but yeah oh and an afternoon nap, I've been missing those 🤫

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